Jenner's Guide to "Getting" Girls.

[Angelalex242]

Personally, when I meet people, I'm trying to bring them into my business. This being the case, I'm not actually worried about possible rejection.

Because I figure my future girlfriend will come from someone I recruit into my business.

[GhaleonOne]

That definitely qualifies as being too far and to early. 5am 7 miles would be okay but 4am is pushing it and so is 10+. Good lordy that is good exercise though!

Well, it all depends. 4AM with 10+ is the harder extreme, but I've done quite a few 5AM 7-mile type hikes at times.

[Jenner]

If you're going to do something anyway, it is likely your are going to meet people who also like doing that thing, but you have to get out there.

Now? I like hating everything about myself.

Looking for a man who also hates everything about me for angry resentful sex. Killing me afterwards is optional.

[Nobiyuki77]

If you're going to do something anyway, it is likely your are going to meet people who also like doing that thing, but you have to get out there.

Now? I like hating everything about myself.

Looking for a man who also hates everything about me for angry resentful sex. Killing me afterwards is optional.

Wat?

[Angelalex242]

That's BDSM waiting to happen. Snuff is a bit extreme, though. Tough to explain to the cops. There's various 'activities' that can be done that'll make you wish you were dead.

[Werefrog]

There's various 'activities' that can be done that'll make you wish you were dead.

And that's just during the small talk at dinner!

[phyco126]

I don't exactly hate myself, so much as I regret past actions and regret not doing more for myself. The key is that hating yourself does only harm in the long run. Regret is probably just as damaging if you can't move past it. Especially if you become so involved with regret that Master Chief comes and kicks your rear end. So... yeah.

Like right now I'm not liking how I'm lonely and bored with life. But I regret it more that I know what I need to do, but am too afraid to do it.

[Werefrog]

Without some degree of self-hate, comedy would not exist.

I sincerely believe that. Maybe that's what's wrong with my comedy.

[Monde Luna]

Go with Nike and Just do it!

[Nobiyuki77]

Don't rush me! I've got regrets I'm still getting over.

[meg]

i did a double take at the "blond" bit too. my brother is currently dating a (sweet, serious, level-headed and intelligent) blond sociologist.

look, guys. basically--and this is what i told the man who is now my husband, on one of our early dates--you NEED to be yourself for one key reason: you cannot keep up any act for rest of your life (he was playing the perfect gentleman. he IS a gentleman, but he's a gentleman that burps, farts, scratches himself, and propositions his male coworkers). be open, be honest, don't worry about "too far" or "not far enough." if she's worth keeping, she'll cut you some slack.

also, avoid movie dates like the plague. what do you do on a movie date? you sit there in the dark ignoring each other. it's okay after you've gotten to know each other a bit, but your early dates should be something you and she can talk to each other through. does she like videogames? bowling? boardgames? theme parks? group dates are good too--especially if you were strangers before asking her out, as that setting allows her to feel safer.

now, for a bit of (painful yet appropriate) humor:
http://whywomenhatemen.blogspot.com/
http://psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com/

observe those links. be NOTHING like what you find there. and laugh.

[Werefrog]

I feel guilty laughing at Psychotic letters from men. I know that it's a humorous site, but man, some of these women dealt with a lot of emotional abuse. I guess that they're at least getting the last laugh by posting these letters on the Internet.

[phyco126]

http://psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com/

Heh, you know, of all those letters, the funniest and best one was the phone camera porn the guy threatened to send to the girls relatives.

Looking back at all the things I've done in the past, all with the approval of my friends, I just have to wonder... why the hell am I not mentioned on that site?

[Werefrog]

It was actually supposed to be Phyco letters from men.

But she misspelled it.

[phyco126]

I should make my own website. "Get the girl you want, just be sure to not do what I do and you'll be fine" will be the motto.

[Jenner]

i did a double take at the "blond" bit too. my brother is currently dating a (sweet, serious, level-headed and intelligent) blond sociologist.

look, guys. basically--and this is what i told the man who is now my husband, on one of our early dates--you NEED to be yourself for one key reason: you cannot keep up any act for rest of your life (he was playing the perfect gentleman. he IS a gentleman, but he's a gentleman that burps, farts, scratches himself, and propositions his male coworkers). be open, be honest, don't worry about "too far" or "not far enough." if she's worth keeping, she'll cut you some slack.

also, avoid movie dates like the plague. what do you do on a movie date? you sit there in the dark ignoring each other. it's okay after you've gotten to know each other a bit, but your early dates should be something you and she can talk to each other through. does she like videogames? bowling? boardgames? theme parks? group dates are good too--especially if you were strangers before asking her out, as that setting allows her to feel safer.

now, for a bit of (painful yet appropriate) humor:
http://whywomenhatemen.blogspot.com/
http://psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com/

observe those links. be NOTHING like what you find there. and laugh.

I shouldn't section off a whole demographic, is that the word? A whole life choice, just because of a few bad apples. I have ALWAYS had a bad opinion of women who dye their hair blond. Regular, legitimate, NATURAL blonds are usually decent girls. I've known quite the number of them. A lot of them struggle with the stereotype that is planted on them by the media that they are easy, promiscuous, and foolish. I have always troubled myself over WHY a girl dyes her hair blond, to me, it equates to a woman getting a breast job. In the past, I used to ask Dyed Blond girls why they dyed their hair blond and they all pretty much told me because it makes them prettier. I just... that irks me on some deep "be proud of yourself" level... To this date, I have never once had a male friend have a fruitful, non-crazy, non-unfaithful, relationship with a girl who has dyed her hair blond. That doesn't mean that there are no dyed blonds out there that are not decent people. But, I'm still wary of them. If they're so unhappy with themselves they change a part of who they are to get attention and to be associated with stereotypes (easy, promiscuous, and foolish, as stated above) then they have more problems than they are worth. When my male friends introduce me to their GFs, or post pics of their GFs online and they're dyed blond, I get a foreboding feeling in my gut... I am always suspicious of them, I am a bad person. >.>

To this day, I still think Dyed Blonds are dangerous, BUT! You can go after the natural blonds all you want boys.

[Nobiyuki77]

But I am a stupid creature governed by logical thinking. I can't understand women with regards to love and relationships because they make no sense to me.

Thus I am teh stupid.

[Sonic#]

I have always troubled myself over WHY a girl dyes her hair blond, to me, it equates to a woman getting a breast job. In the past, I used to ask Dyed Blond girls why they dyed their hair blond and they all pretty much told me because it makes them prettier. I just... that irks me on some deep "be proud of yourself" level... To this date, I have never once had a male friend have a fruitful, non-crazy, non-unfaithful, relationship with a girl who has dyed her hair blond. That doesn't mean that there are no dyed blonds out there that are not decent people. But, I'm still wary of them. If they're so unhappy with themselves they change a part of who they are to get attention and to be associated with stereotypes (easy, promiscuous, and foolish, as stated above) then they have more problems than they are worth. When my male friends introduce me to their GFs, or post pics of their GFs online and they're dyed blond, I get a foreboding feeling in my gut... I am always suspicious of them, I am a bad person. >.>

Now you've described both of my sisters, who have dyed their hair blonde. Inaccurately, I might add.

See, some people modify their body to appear attractive to someone else, as you imply. That does not make them bad people necessarily; it just means that they are willing to change a part of themselves to please someone else. It could mean that they depend on how others view them, but that's not necessarily the case.

Some people modify their appearance because they admire their own body, on their own terms, and they wish to change it on their own terms. How would that imply risque behavior?

People dye their hair, wear make-up, dress well, style their hair, or ornament their bodies for a variety of reasons. There isn't just one - to impress the opposite sex. They might want to impress the same sex, or impress themselves, or impress people beyond sexual attraction. I find your judgments patently biased.

[phyco126]

When it comes to changing one's looks, I can lean either way. Tattoos are fine, piercings are fine, dying your hair any color to impress someone or to hide your natural colors (or grey hair) is iffy at best, but make-up for me is just, pfft. Women should never have to wear make-up, nor should they ever feel the need. Once in a while is fine, but I honestly like the natural look better.

However, that is merely my opinion and anymore it is fine and dandy if women want to wear it. Mostly because I got tired of thinking it was good of me to like the natural look and defend the whole 'no need for make-up bit' only to be attacked as a male pig. Odd. Anyway, yeah.

[Alunissage]

My mom colors her hair blonde, because my dad likes it. It suits her well enough. She had dark hair (her natural color) when they met, but I expect she was already coloring it then; she started getting gray hair very young (about 17, I think). She went back to natural when she became pregnant with my sister and for a few years after -- although there were a few odd intermediate stages between blonde and natural since nonpermanent dark hair dye does not exactly work correctly on bleached hair. Nowadays her natural color would be mostly gray anyway, so she may as well stick with blonde and thereby keep her appearance about the same. My sister and I were going through old photo albums and it was kind of amusing how little our parents have changed. People in our family don't grow up much as far as attitude is concerned, so why should she have to look like an old(ish) lady if she doesn't feel or act like one?

I used to color my hair reddish brown (I always tried for red, but my hair is really good at staying brown), just for fun and because it worked well with my skin and eye color. In the last several years I haven't bothered. I do have more gray hairs than I used to (say, 6 instead of 3) but not enough to be bothered with. It's not out of the question for me to dye it again if I decide I want to. I don't mind the thought of having completely gray or white hair at all, but a halfway state is kind of annoying -- and the one color of hair dye that is impossible to find, it seems, is gray.

I'm sure I have some thought on implication of coloring hair vs makeup vs other physical enhancements, but not at 2:30am.